Tuesday, February 7, 2012

I (Don't Really) Love to Read

Confession: Other than textbooks, I haven't actually read an entire book in almost seven years.

Yikes! That confession is terribly embarrassing when I read it aloud. It's true, though. I have read thousands of newspapers cover to cover and devoted hundreds of hours to magazine articles, textbooks and blogs in the last seven years, but finish an entire book just for the fun of it I have not.

It occurred to me about a month ago that this is a bit ridiculous. I guess amidst two jobs, cleaning, cooking and socializing, finding time to read was just not a priority. So I decided to meet myself halfway and try audio books. I've been in the car an hour and a half each day commuting for work, and I've already finished four books in a little over a month. Not bad considering my previous reading stats!

February is widely celebrated as "I Love to Read" month. What books have you read lately that you loved? I'm always curious to know what genres people like to follow. Here are some quick reviews of the books I've "read" via audio.

"Apologize, Apologize" by Elizabeth Kelly
My Rating: 3 out of 5. I loved the first half of the book - intricately descriptive and pithy. The second half really started to drag on, though, and was just kind of depressing.

"Mennonite in a Little Black Dress" by Rhoda Janzen
My Rating: 4 out of 5. If you live anywhere near a Mennonite community (as I do), you can completely relate to this memoir. I loved the sarcastic truths about religion and life in general, but the end kind of left me hanging.

"Firefly Lane" by Kristin Hannah
My Rating 4.5 out of 5. This book had me laughing out loud, glaring out the windshield in disgust and bawling by the end. Many of the underlying themes are relatable, and the story was always progressing.

"Ask Again Later" by Jill Davis
My Rating: 2 out of 5. For the longest time the story was going no where, and I wanted to tell the main character to just get over herself. It was a little too neurotic for me, and though the end was touching, it took forever to get there.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Love Is In the Air

Confession: There's something to be said for cheap whimsy when it comes to gift giving.

February is just around the corner, which means so too is the holiday that somehow manages each year to be as equally anticipated as dreaded. Valentine's Day.

Personally, I have always loved the day set aside to celebrate love. I was never one to mope if I wasn't in a relationship, or get stressed about giving or receiving the perfect gift. To me Valentine's Day is about more than fancy dinners or a nice bouquet of flowers (not that I'm opposed to either of those if you're reading his, Hubby). It's about celebrating all the relationships in your life, and being thankful for everyone you love.

With that in mind, here are some fun and easy homemade V-Day gift ideas perfect for anyone. Girlfriends, daycare providers, coworkers, oh and your spouse too! Unfortunately I don't have pictures to share with these ideas. I assembled the candy jar for Hubby's and my first Valentine's Day while dating and the cookie bouquet for our third, but didn't think to take pictures at the time. So use your imagination - I know you can do it!

Message In A Jar
You will need a bag of mini or snack size candy bars, sticky notes and a jar. Cut the sticky notes in half or thirds and write a nice message on the inside of each. Then wrap one note around each piece of candy, sealing with a piece of tape if necessary. Each time your loved one reaches for a piece of candy they'll have encouraging words to know how much you care. This homemade version costs so much less and is so much more personal than any versions sold in stores.

Cookie Bouquet
There is definitely some merit to the phrase "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach," and one of my husband's favorite food groups is chocolate chip cookies. While most people would be more than happy with a zippie bag full of cookies, sometimes a little whimsy is good for a relationship. You can prepare your own dough, but the refrigerated break-apart squares actually work best as they're a little firmer and the pre-portioned dough is the perfect size. Insert a wooden skewer or popsicle stick through each cookie (like you would a campfire stick through a marshmallow, without poking through the top) and bake as usual. Allow cookies to completely cool, then place in a vase or trim the skewers short and place in mason jars or beer mugs for a more "manly" look. Click here for Nestle coupons!

There are all kinds of great ideas online for inexpensive, whimsical gifts. I think the best Valentine gifts are the thoughtful ones that really show your friends, family and spouse how much you care.

Show 'em some love this year. Happy gifting!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Are You Prepared?

Confession: Those Boy Scouts were on to something.

Unfortunately, I've had several reminders this week that life is a delicate, precious gift that can be taken away in an instant, without warning. No one is ever emotionally prepared for the loss of a loved one, but having your affairs in order in case you were to pass away unexpectedly can save your spouse and/or children an immense amount of psychological stress.

Working at a tax office, I constantly see examples of clients passing away and their surviving spouse not having a clue about how many retirement accounts, insurance policies, monthly bills, etc., they have. These are not all elderly couples, either. Tragedy can strike at any time, regardless of age. I think those Boys Scouts were on to something when they chose "Be Prepared" as their motto.

Now here is the real Confession to this post: I'm preaching from a totally and completely hypocritical soapbox. I handle all the bills, insurance policies and finances in general for our household. If I were to die unexpectedly, I would leave a huge headache for my husband, and as much as I love him, I think he'd be kind of lost without me as our financial operations status currently stands.

The only way to create change is to act, so I'm going to act. My plan is to make a Family Binder to house pertinent information in one place. You can find many amazing ideas for in depth, completely comprehensive Family Binders on organizing blogs and sites like Pinterest, but I think our binder will be fairly simple.

I'm hoping to have a good start on the binder this week, and I will check in with you when it's complete. Do you have a Family Binder? What suggestions do you have for organizing your important information?

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Tuesday Pick-me-up

Confession: We all need a little pick-me-up now and again.

It's an unfortunate fact that until I've had my morning coffee, I'm kind of worthless. The truth is, every now and again we can use a little pick-me-up; something to inspire a fresh outlook on life. As I walked into our bathroom a few weeks ago, I realized the room could use a little morning coffee... some fresh inspiration.

I knew my bathroom inspiration wouldn't be as inexpensive as my morning coffee, but I didn't want the project to break the bank either. So, I thought about what decorations we had in our house that weren't being used to their full potential, and set a $50 budget for the remaining items.

Before: The room was fairly plain, and lacking warmth and a concrete theme.

 
After: With just a bit of staging and a new color scheme, our bathroom is warm and inviting.

 

 

I repurposed the shelving unit from a guest bedroom, the flowers and vase from the basement, and finally found a home for a set of sconces we received as a wedding gift. I purchased the storage baskets for $25, the valance for $10 and the accent towels for $16. I also did splurge on the matching waste basket ($15) for a total $16 over budget, but it was worth spending a little extra!

The project must have ignited a little inspiration spark, as I decided to also add a few cozy details to our kitchen - details and pictures to come!

These were simple projects that were thought of and carried out within a week, but sometimes simple projects are all a modern "housewife" has time for. The kitchen is the first room our house visitors see, and one of my top priorities is to (try to) maintain a clean bathroom. Now our guests can admire our homey decor upon arrival and while visiting the powder room, dunny, john, water closet or (my personal favorite) urination station. Ever looked up all the nicknames for a restroom?

Friday, December 16, 2011

Chicken Lemon Pasta

Confession: This is not your mother's spaghetti night.

We all need a few secret recipes up our sleeves that look and taste impressive but take little time and ingredients to create. Chicken Lemon Pasta is a nice alternative for a traditional spaghetti night, and it can be on the dinner table in 20 minutes.

CHICKEN LEMON PASTA

3-4 chicken breasts, pounded to 1/2 inch thick
1 lb. angel hair pasta
1/2 c. reserved cooking liquid
2 lemons (zest and juice)
1/4 c. butter, melted
1/4 c. extra virgin olive oil

Preheat oven to 400 degrees and place chicken breasts between two sheets of wax paper. Use meat mallet or rolling pin to flatten to 1/2 inch thick. Season both sides with garlic salt and pepper, and cook in the oven for 10 minutes. Cook pasta according to package and drain, reserving 1/2 cup of the cooking liquid. Combine pasta and reserved liquid with the zest of two lemons, then slice half of one lemon. After the first 10 minutes, flip chicken and top with lemon slices then continue to cook for 10 minutes. Combine juice of remaining lemons into pasta mixture along with butter, EVOO and garlic salt and pepper to taste.  

Tip: It tastes just a good as a cold salad for the next day's lunch!

Thursday, December 15, 2011

I'm Dreaming of a Stress-Free Christmas

Confession: The holidays don't have to be stressful!

It's no secret Christmas seems to be sneaking in earlier and earlier each year. This year I even noticed ads in late September mentioning layaway plans. The companies didn't mention the words holiday or Santa, but we all know layaway plans come but once a year. All of the extra attention can lead to early anxiety for shoppers and holiday hostesses, but I'm a firm believer the holidays don't have to (and shouldn't) be stressful. All it takes is a little planning.

Christmas Cards/Letters: Keep one compiled copy of all addresses and update it as needed throughout the year. This saves the trouble each year of looking online and in different books and desk drawers wondering if you have the most recent mailing addresses.

Baking: Team up with friends or relatives for a cookie exchange. Have each person prepare two recipes and exchange the end results. This is a fun and easy way to have a variety of cookies at each home with only the work of preparing two recipes.

Shopping: Make a list, check it twice, and most importantly: stick to it! It's much easier to stay on budget if you know in advance exactly what you're purchasing. As for shopping methods, there are several options. You can pace your shopping over a few weeks so it's not such a one-time financial burden (unless you're wasting a tank of gas each trip) or do all your shopping at once to be done with it. I think the key is to find what works for you - and stick to your list! The more prepared you are the less time you'll spend agonizing in the store. If possible, wrap gifts the same day you purchase them. This will save you an extra day of work in the long run, and you won't have to worry about spoiling surprises for snoopy loved ones!

Cleaning & Cooking: Don't leave all the work for one day! Give yourself a break by spreading the work over the days leading up to the big event. Clean the upstairs/bedrooms one day, downstairs the next, and peel potatoes, prep the veggies for stuffing, make the pies and set the table the day before.

Remember the Real Meaning: The holidays don't have to and should not be stressful. The more prep work you do leading up to a holiday the more quality time you have to spend with your guests. No one will notice if everything is not perfect, and true friends and family recognize it's the thought that counts.

Merry Christmas!

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Candy Dish Remix

Confession: Occasionally I fancy being fancy!

Like many little girls, I used to love hosting tea parties for my dolls and stuffed animals. They were always very polite guests and listened patiently as I droned on about my hectic day officiating a marriage ceremony for Barbie and Ken, watching Disney movies and searching incessantly for my imaginary friend, Julie (she's a Hide-and-Seek champion - I haven't seen her since 1993).

The guests varied from day to day, but one item was a constant at my parties:  the cup and saucer set from which I sipped "tea" (milk and about four scoops of sugar) that had belonged to my grandmother. I am honored to now display my grandmother's full set of tea cups and saucers in one of our hutches. Though they aren't used for many tea parties these days, it's a reminder that occasionally I fancy being fancy. So when it came time to decorate our dining room table with the usual modest center piece and candy dish, I thought I'd mix it up a bit and use wine glasses. It's probably not a viable option if you have little ones running around, but I think it's was a fun and festive way to share some holiday goodies!   


Friday, December 9, 2011

Joy In the Little Projects

Confession: I have the artistic abilities of a six-year-old.

I don't generally think of myself as a terribly artistic person. I'm not too bad at thinking creatively, it's the execution of said creative ideas that gets me. I've often joked if I could recreate some of my dreams (or nightmares) I'd be a billionaire music video producer or architect. Unfortunately my bank account strongly suggests I'm nowhere close to a billionaire, so I have to find joy in the little creative projects I am able to complete.

In total fairness, this creative idea was not entirely mine. It's based off a Mission:Organization post I saw in September with great fall decor ideas. I decided to put a little holiday twist on mine, and though it doesn't require much more than Kindergarten-level artistic ability (I think that's when we learned to use scissors), it's fulfilling to walk in the room and think, "Yeah, I did that."



 What You Need:
-Dollar Store Picture Frames (They don't all have to be the same size or style - get creative!)
-Scrapbook or Printer Paper
-Scissors (Fiskars Safety is optional, not required like in Kindergarten.)
-Double-sided Tape or a Glue Stick






 Step 1: Measure and cut background paper to fit frame.

 




Step 2: Trace or print letters to cut and form various words or names.








Step 3: Use double-sided tape or a glue stick to adhere letters to background paper.












Step 4: Place end product in frames, and pat yourself on the back for a creative thought well executed!

Thursday, December 8, 2011

Pin me happy

Confession: I have no idea what I'm doing, but I think I'm addicted!

I recently joined Pinterest, which I think might be the coolest social media site yet. It's kind of like an image search engine but tailored to your interests. I think. I actually have no idea what I'm doing, but I'm excited to learn!

I see myself using it mostly for home project ideas and recipes. I'm thankful there are people in the world who are much more creative and talented than I am to look to for inspiration. And, when I'm not using Pinterest for practical purposes, I can always drool over the "Dream Home" pins. Click on the nifty little red button you see on the right side of your screen to follow me, and enjoy a few of my favorite pins below!

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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Creamed Corn

Confession: It's worth every last calorie.

A while back I promised you the most amazing creamed corn recipe. It comes from Paula Deen, and this one's a keeper. Do you have a family celebration, potluck or holiday meal coming up? Turn up the volume on a traditional side dish with this recipe, and don't forget to use the sweet corn and chopped onions you stocked your freezer with after reading Freeze! It's easy meal prep time.

CREAMED CORN
Makes 8 servings

1 tablespoon butter
1 cup chopped onion
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1 (16 oz) package frozen niblet corn, thawed
2 cups heavy whipping cream
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon ground red pepper
1/4 teaspoon ground white pepper (*I just use black pepper.)
1-1/2 tablespoons quick-cooking grits
1 cup shredded Monterey Jack cheese

In a large saucepan, melt butter over medium heat. Add onion and garlic; cook for 4 minutes or until onion is tender. Stir in corn, cream, salt and peppers; bring to a boil, and reduce heat. Add grits, and simmer for 10 to 15 minutes or until thickened. Add cheese, stirring until cheese melts. Serve immediately.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

The First Step Is Admission

Confession: I'm a bad blogger!

I will be the first to admit that I'm kind of terrible at keeping up with blog posts. As you may notice it's been almost two months since my last post. This is because I'm very good at starting personal writing projects but not always finishing them. I have a couple different piecemeal memoirs that I've been working on since my early college days, and my diary probably still has me head over heels with a sixth grade fling. I think it's because I work with deadlines every day professionally so it's nice to have the option to be a little lax with personal projects.

That being said, I think almost two months is stretching the bounds of "lax," so I promise to be better. I am working on several new projects at home and have a ton of recipes to share. Stay tuned!

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Basement On A Budget

When we bought our house, one of the features I was most excited about was the beautiful bath tub.


The problem:  there was no stand up shower in the house, so we had to put up with taking baths for a while. I didn't really mind other than it being chilly during the winter months, but it was hard for my husband the millwright to really feel like he was clean after sitting in a dusty, greasy tub of water. We decided to install a free-standing shower in the basement. The addition of a shower stall was suitable enough for my husband, but to me it felt like... well, like showering in an icky basement. So, I decided to get to work and create a more inviting atmosphere with a $200 budget.

Before: Cluttered, cold and scary; complete with a previous owner's growth chart!


 
 
 
   
 
  

After: Clean, warm and inviting!

 

 
The budget breakdown:
2-in-1 Paint & Primer  & Paint Tools... $44
Window Treatments...$22
Shower Curtain...$14
Bath Mat...$40
Tablecloth...$5
Decorations...$40
Hardware & Accessories...$30
Total...$195

I realize most of the improvement comes simply from decluttering and cleaning, but to me it was a worthwhile project. It's still a basement, but now it feels more like any other comfortable room in our home.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Freeze! It's easy meal prep time.

Lately, I've been trying to be better about utilizing my freezer as a tool for planning ahead. Some nights when I get home from work the last thing I feel like doing is chopping onions or browning hamburger. I also hate spending twice as much money on fruits and vegetables during the winter months. Here are some of my tips for making meal prep easy, all year round!


Onions: Strap on a pair of goggles and get it over with!
For many people, one of the least exciting ways to spend time in the kitchen is chopping onions. I like to chop several sandwich-size freezer bags full at once to get it over with. You can measure the contents by cups or whole onions, whatever you prefer. I have somehow been blessed with tear ducts that are not overly affected by onions, but that is not the case for many people. My advice: wait until no one else is home (or until the kids are napping) and strap on a pair of swim goggles. You may look goofy, but it will make the process less painful. I've also heard that popping a whole onion in the freezer for about 10 minutes prior to chopping or running hot water while chopping decreases the nasty effects.

Ground beef: Bulk up your meal planning power with bulk cooking!
I got this idea from Mission:Organization. Our freezer is stocked full of beef throughout the year as my dad is a beef farmer, but it had never occurred to me to store some of it cooked. When I have the time, I cook two or three times as much beef as needed for a meal and pack the extra into freezer bags. The two best tools for the job: The Pampered Chef Micro Cooker and Mix'N'Chop. Let the microwave do all the work.

Sweet corn: A sweet surprise any month of the year!
This summer I froze sweet corn so we can enjoy during the coming winter months what is usually a summer treat. It's a simple process, and if you have a helper you can pack up several dozen ears in no time! First, remove the husks and silk. Place the ears into boiling water for 2-3 minutes, then remove with tongs directly into cold water to stop the cooking process. Place the ears on a clean towel to dry, then remove the kernels with a sharp knife. Some people have sterilized a nail and driven it through a wooden cutting board to pierce the cob and hold it in place while cutting. I simply cut the bottom of the cob to create a flat surface. Place the kernels in freezer bags and lay flat in freezer. Stay tuned for a truly amazing Paula Deen recipe for homemade creamed corn.

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Apples: Even frozen ones can keep the winter blues away!
Ok, so my favorite ways to eat apples (crisps, bars, pies, etc.) probably won't keep the doctor very far away, but they sure are yummy! Like sweet corn, freezing apples is a simple process. An especially helpful tool is an apple corer/peeler/slicer. These nifty little devices are available at cooking and hardware stores, and online at places like Amazon.com. I haven't tried it yet, but the device can also be used to peel and slice potatoes. As you core, peel and thinly slice the apples, place them immediately into cool water mixed with a tablespoon of lemon juice. Then strain the apples out of the cool water and place in boiling water for 1-2 minutes. Remove the apple slices and place them directly into a freezer bag with a quarter cup of sugar. Then seal the bag and turn the ingredients until the sugar is dissolved and lay it flat in freezer.

Simple steps like these can be a saving grace on a weeknight when you don't have much time or energy to make supper. Who knows, you may even have time to indulge in a glass of wine!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

It's beginning to look a lot like... greeting cards!

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I know we're not even half way through October, but now is a good time to get a great deal on holiday greeting cards. You can make a dent in your holiday checklist right now and save big with promotions like free shipping. Use your savings to treat yourself to a preseason gift!

Click here to browse Snapfish.com's holiday greeting cards. Use the code FSHIPCARDS at the check out to receive free shipping plus 25% off your order. Act fast, though! This promotion ends at 11:59 p.m. today, Oct. 11.

PersonalizationMall.com is currently offering up to 30% off its entire stock of holiday greeting cards. The site has many options from traditional to religious to whimsical themes. While you're on the site, browse the amazing selection of unique gifts. They've got something for just about every occasion. Tip: all over the web site it says orders ship in 1-2 days, which refers to when your items are packaged and set for standard delivery. For whatever reason, the first time I ordered from the site I had it in my head that I would receive the package in 1-2 days. I did not receive my package on time and had to quickly find a replacement gift.

It's only October, but the holiday season will be here before we know it. Ordering your greeting cards now may save you money, time and stress later. Happy shopping!

Monday, October 10, 2011

Decorating: Fall Fabulous

Today I'm sharing a blog post from Randi's blog, Mission: Organization. She has excellent suggestions for keeping an organized home. I absolutely love the Fall decorations she shared in the post below, and as soon as I get some free time I'm going to try the picture frame project. Check out all of her blog posts - you'll be inspired to get to work in your own home!


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Picture frame project from A Diamond in the Stuff
Mission: Organization: Friday Favorites - Fall Decor: I'm debuting a new blog segment today, called Friday Favorites. Each Friday, I'll be sharing some of my favorite things...they might be org...

Friday, September 30, 2011

Beat the Blue Ribbon Odds

The odds of bowling a 300 game: 1 in 11,500. Winning an Olympic medal: 1 in 662.000. Being born a twin in North America: 1 in 90. Being on a plane with a drunken pilot: 1 in 117. (The Odds #1)

There are statistics available for almost every aspect of life, but not all so amusing as these. The current odds of a male being diagnosed with prostate cancer during his lifetime: a scary one in six. (Prostate.net)
Prostate cancer may seem a peculiar topic to find on a blog with the word Housewife in the title, but we all have at least one important male in our lives, be it a brother, spouse or close friend.

Last week I was listening to the radio on my way to work and the station was hosting Winter Vinecki, founder of Team Winter. Vinecki formed the organization which raises awareness about prostate cancer through participating in and coordinating big name marathons and triathalons. Her inspiration to establish Team Winter came from her father's diagnosis and lost battle with prostate cancer.

Wait, did I mention Winter Vinecki is 12 years old?

Talk about an amazing story. While most kids are concerned with the newest gaming system or electronic device, Winter channels her youthful energy to fight a little-discussed disease. Her organization is a supporting partner of the Prostate Cancer Foundation.

Like any disease, the best chance to successfully combat the condition starts with early detection. The Foundation's web site states age 40 is a "reasonable time to start screening for those at highest risk," meaning "genetic predispositions or strong family histories of prostate cancer at a young age."

When it comes to cancer, knowledge is power. Know your risks. Know when to begin screening and what preventative steps you can take to safeguard your body from the various forms of cancer. You can help others acquire knowledge through supporting organizations like Team Winter and the American Cancer Society. If a brave 12 year old can take action, so can you.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

The Best Kept MacGuffin: B&N Movies

One of my favorite college courses was Intro to Film. An entire class devoted to watching movies; what's not to love? Learning film terms was intriguing as well: "best boy," "key grip," "gaffer," and... the "MacGuffin."

The "MacGuffin" is an Alfred Hitchcock term that refers to an item or element viewers see throughout a movie and find intriguing but don't yet know its value, like the horcruxes in the Harry Potter films (if you haven't read the books). We see the items many times throughout the series, but don't immediately know their importance. Many times a film plot does not find closure until the character finds the MacGuffin. A few days ago, I had my own "diamond in the rough" MacGuffin to find: movies and TV show seasons for less. [Enter Barnes & Noble, stage left or right.]

The first thing that comes to mind when I think Barnes & Noble is books. It never occurred to me to search the company's online store for movies and TV shows until I was browsing the site for a birthday gift card. B&N has a huge selection of DVD and Blu-ray movies, and many are cheaper than even the box stores' $5 and $10 bins. I ordered two TV show seasons and each was $10 less than I've seen in box stores, saving me $20. Plus, B&N offers free shipping for orders over $25 so my savings increased automatically.

Another impressive B&N Online move: the store accepted my 15% off coupon code in addition to the free shipping offer and automatically discounted the more expensive item. None of this "limit one offer per purchase, must be used on lowest-price item" business.

Next time you plan to purchase a movie or TV series, check out B&N online, and group your purchases to $25 or more for the free shipping. Want to learn more film terms to impress your friends? Click here to access IMDb's movie terminology glossary.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Talk. Encourage. Exemplify.

Although it is not considered a criminal offense, emotional abuse is a serious issue, and one I think is often overlooked in teen and young adult relationships. Many young people do not understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship and allow their partner to control their actions for fear of rejection or dismissal.

Most parents wouldn't think twice about whether or not it's important to have "the sex talk" with their children, but how many have had "the relationship talk"? It's important for young people to know they are not an object, and it's never ok to change the way you dress or who your friends are just because your partner says so. You are your own person and should make your own decisions.

Self respect is not something inherent to all young people, and with new avenues like social media kids feel even more pressure to project a cool, sexy image in order to "get" and "hold onto" a boyfriend or girlfriend. Unhealthy celebrity relationships certainly don't help. Adults understand the constant infidelity, emotional and even physical abuse portrayed in celebrity relationships is not healthy, but for young people it is starting to appear to be the norm.

According to the Southwest Crisis Center, which serves Jackson, Nobles, Pipestone, Rock and Cottonwood counties in southwest Minnesota, studies show at least one in ten teens will be in an abusive relationship. As the non-profit organization's web site points out, "It's not easy to leave an abusive relationship at any age. It is even harder for teens to leave abusive relationships because of fewer resources and uninformed adults who think it's 'just two kids fighting'."

For many people, the way we act and are treated in early relationships affects the dynamics of relationships later in life. Emotional abuse leads to self doubt, which can lead to trust issues. Infidelity leads to anger and hurt, which can lead to returned infidelity. Neglect leads to resentment, which can lead to emotional abuse, infidelity or apathy towards other relationships. And the scary cycle continues.

So, what can we do to diminish the cycle? Talk. Talk to your children, siblings or friends who look up to you (respect parental/professional boundaries, of course). Let them know they deserve to be treated with respect, and that healthy romantic and platonic relationships begin with self respect. If you're concerned they are currently in an unhealthy relationship, click here for advice on how to address the situation.

Encourage. Encourage your schools to create awareness about physical, sexual and emotional abuse through appropriate lyceums presented by education and outreach organizations like New Horizons Crisis Center. Exemplify. Exemplify a healthy relationship with yourself, with your partner and with others. Be a quality role model for your children, siblings and all young people. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel you are treading unsafe waters. Respect yourself enough to know you deserve happiness, and you may be surprised how many others will follow suit.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Simply Delicious Strawberry Cake

Do you have a birthday, anniversary or special family celebration coming up? Are you short on time and maybe even ambition but want to make an impressive dessert? Cue Paula Deen (and her butter) to the rescue!

The name pretty much says it all: Simply Delicious Strawberry Cake. The recipe is simple, but the outcome is elegant and delicious. I made this for my last birthday and it was a hit. One tip: with strawberry puree incorporated in the batter, it doesn't keep as long as other cakes. If you have a crowd with a collective sweet tooth, though, you won't have trouble finishing it in a few settings!

Frozen fruits are a great way to stretch a buck and enjoy the tastes of summer year round. Click here for more ways to put your frozen strawberries to good (and yummy!) use.

Friday, September 23, 2011

Penne with Vodka Sauce

As late September sets in, so does the crisp, cool autumn air. A great way to keep warm is with a hearty meal, like Giada De Laurentiis's Penne with Vodka Sauce. If you don't keep alcohol in your home, this one's probably not for you, but it's so easy anyone can prepare it.

It's hearty enough that you don't even notice it's a vegetarian recipe, and the shopping list for this meal certainly won't break the bank. My husband and I don't care for vodka as a drink, but I always have a bottle on hand because this is one of our favorite recipes.

Head's up: when Giada says let the sauce simmer for 20 minutes, she means the full 20 minutes. This allows enough time for the alcohol to cook out to make it a family friendly meal. Let's just say the first time I prepared this recipe I jumped the gun on the simmer time and we were feeling quite simmered ourselves after suppertime. If you're still concerned about alcohol as an ingredient, just set aside some plain marinara sauce for your kiddos. There's no reason Mom and Dad have to skimp on a little decadence.

Food Network has many great recipes for a side dish to accompany your meal. Still not warm after your Penne with Vodka Sauce? One of these Hot Chocolate recipes might do the trick!